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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh! Just spoon some f$cking potatoes on the guy’s plate and be done with it.

Am I an insane person? Because more and more I’m finding that you all make no sense to me whatsoever. This post and your follow up commentary has taken more time than an entire lifetime of plopping down an extra helping of food on a relative’s plate when he asks for it. [/quote]

I feel 200% in line with this poster. This seems like a super mental thing to be upset about. He must be bothering you generally and this thing is emblematic of the larger issues? If not that then you seem really overly intense about a minor thing he does to everyone[/quote]

OP here. I just checked back in after a few days. I’m really surprised at this response. Here’s another example. Pizza boxes are on the island, we are using paper plates, super informal. I walk up to the island with my plate. Open the box of the pizza I would like, and before I can put any on my own plate, FIL sticks his arm in with his plate and says, “can you put 2 on my plate?” If he waited just 25 seconds I would have been done and completely out of his way. My answer was “when I’m finished serving myself I will” but I’d like him to just stop doing this altogether. I think it’s obnoxious and rude. I wouldn’t tolerate this from my children at any age.[/quote]

I'm the PP. I honestly don't really get this one either, you're standing in front of open pizza boxes and someone asks you to hand them one? This happens all the time in my house when there is pizza around. Maybe I am misunderstanding but I would also not think twice about my kid coming up with a plate when I was in front of the boxes and asking for a piece. Did you have a plate yourself? I mean I'd just put one on my plate and then put one on his plate. This whole thing is like a 10 second interaction, took a lot longer to write this post than to put the pizza on the plate.

But that is why I said it really sounds like you are just generally looking for times when he does this and finding him overall extremely annoying. Which is fine? Maybe he is generally a very irritating person! Hard to tell, but these examples you're giving just seem like...something I would zero time being upset about. If he was pushing you out of the way to get to the pizza, or like, grabbing your hand to stop you serving yourself, or pouting and whining if you served your kids first, or ONLY asking you to do these things, that's all stuff I could buy, but honestly like, asking the person in front of the box for a slice is just...normal?[/quote]

This. When we get pizza, the boxes go in the kitchen while we eat in the dining room. If anyone gets up to get a slice, they ask the rest of the table if they want one, and bring back for those folks who do before they serve themselves. Really not seeing the issue here. OP should be offering in the first place.

For non-pizza meals, yes, I always serve my guests or older family members before myself. I serve my kids before myself too. Now if it's time for seconds and a kid asks for seconds before others have had firsts, the answer is no; and if it were a guest asking, I'd say "sure, one second, let me just make sure everyone's gotten their first round and then I'll help you out."

And DH serves everyone else before himself too so it isn't a gender thing. [/quote]

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