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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If they had a f*cked up childhood--a parent was an alcoholic or a serial cheater...RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO matter how much they swear they won't turn out that way...wait 20 years and tell me what happens.[/quote]

My husband's mother was an alcoholic and he's an amazing person and father and I wouldn't trade him for anything.  You are wrong about this.

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ACOA and DW of 23 years. I "came out" and told then-BF about my parent's alcoholism and my own eating- disordered past: two shameful secrets I typically kept from most everyone. He loved me and married me anyway, despite my protestations.

I have chosen not to drink any alcohol and DH knows that if I should ever start, he's to intervene because I'm in crisis.

DH sibling now struggles with addiction (late in life). Never could have seen this or predicted, but we are a team and I can help support DH.

A cautionary tale: if a future spouse hides or conceals or tells you 1/2 truths about his or her family of origin, run. My own sibling failed to mention/lied by omission our parent's alcoholism to DW. There was an event with our alcoholic parent about a decade into their marriage and suddenly my sibling had to tell the DW. The spouse was beyond angry and enraged (some played out in front of me) and their marriage (and IL relationship) has never been the same. I wouldn't be surprised if they divorced.

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