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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That you can post this list with a  straight face is mind boggling.  DH and i both work full time and both contribute sizably to $800k HHI (i think he's at $450k and me $350k).

preparing meals- 3-5 hours/wk -- WE SPLIT. AND THIS ISN'T 'MEAL PREP'. THIS IS JUST MAKING DINNER AND CLEAN UP DURING THE WEEK TIME.  
school volunteering - 2-3 hours/wk -- ALMOST NONE. WITH RARE EXCEPTION, I HAVE NEVER SEEN AN IMPORTANT SCHOOL VOLUNTEER JOB THAT ISN'T MAKE WORK FOR THE SAHMS. 
other volunteering - 2-3 hours/wk -- NONE. 
grocery shopping - 1-2 hours/wk - WE SPLIT
general cleaning the house - 3-5 hours/wk - HOUSECLEANER SPENDS 6 HOURS EVERY SECOND WEEK
shuttling kids around to doctor/dentist/orthodontist or going to school play etc - 2-3 hours/wk  - THIS NUMBER IS SUPER INFLATED. I HANDLE IT FOR MY MODERATELY SPECIAL NEEDS CHILD. DURING SCHOOL HOURS, IT'S 2-3 HOURS A MONTH.  
general errands (new clothes, running to target, post office, etc) - 1-2 hours/wk - THIS IS CALLED INTERNET SURFING.  IF YOU THINK YOU DESERVE ALIMONY FOR THIS, YOU ARE NUTS. 
laundry - 2-3 hours/wk - 30 MINUTES A WEEK SPREAD OUT OVER 2 MINUTE INCREMENTS. 
yard work (mowing, planting flowers, shoveling snow, etc) - 2-3 hours/wk - YEAH RIGHT YOU DO THIS. 
general paperwork, managing finances - 1-2 hours/wk - 30 MINUTES A MONTH. DH HANDLES. 
organizing/decorating house (moving out seasonal clothing, getting rid of junk, painting, etc) - 2-4 hours/wk  YOU ARE A LOON.

So the "during the school day" stuff is the 6 hours every two weeks for housecleaner, 2-3 hours a month for my special needs kid, 30 minutes of laundry a week, 30 minutes of paperwork.  i'm not including meals because that's dumb.   That's a total of 16 hours of work every month.  so you think you deserve lifetime alimony by adding 16 hours a month of ease to your working spouse's life?  
exercise - 3-5 hours/wk
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That's fair, pp.  No one would say that you, as a wife and mother, deserve any income.  A mother of one who never volunteers or really looks beyond her own four walls, splits all of the housework and most of the childcare with her husband or maid, doesn't cook, lets her lawn go to seed, and doesn't take care of her home beyond basic cleaning is likely lazy.  But that doesn't really describe many SAHM's.

Also, why wouldn't people mow their lawns or plant flowers?  I look around my neighborhood and see this is done in pretty much every house.

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