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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you homeschool her?

I think the reason your post is off putting is the attitude that people with average IQs are not college material, and can't be as successful as you.

IQ and success are not correlated once you are in the average or above range.

I think it may be detrimental to your daughter if you express your opinion to her the way you are here.

I actually don't think you should treat her college process any different than your other children. Going to school is a skill, being good at it does not help you with anything except doing well at school, it does not make you a better employee or employer.

You should google a+ schools for b students.

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No, we have her in a private online high school. We considered homeschool but I personally don't think I could do it on my end.

Look, perhaps I am just not clearly saying what I am asking for and where I am coming from.  I KNOW that having a high IQ does not necessarily mean success, and vice versa. All I am saying, is that my OWN personal experience in my OWN family is that when we got to the point my daughter is at (where we were deciding upon "next steps" after I was graduating from high school), I was in a VERY different position than I find myself in today with my own daughter. I was a student with a high IQ, coming from parents with a high IQ, with a future that was decided upon in advance. There was no question that I was going to college, the only discussions were about where I was going to college.

I find myself in the position of having a child who potentially may NOT take that route. Not only does she have a lower end IQ, she also has ADHD to complicate things.  And she isn't a B student, she is a C student at best.  And I am ill-equipped to help her, because I don't know where to start. We don't have access to a high school guidance counselor or career center to talk this all out.  I don't even know if its okay that she does NOT go to college. All the statistics I read show college graduates making 50% more income than non college grads. it scares me to think she might not go, if that's the case.
This post is not about me being pretentious and being disappointed in my daughter.  I am NOT disappointed.  I am just unfamiliar with the territory I find myself in. I don't think everyone on this board is smart, not smart, or anywhere in between.  Im just seeking out someone in my position who knows of resources I can use to help my kid. 
I cant understand what is so offensive about this question.  [/quote]

You are a smart and capable parent.  It was a good idea to reach out for additional help.  I also think that you are just as capable of finding answers on your own by doing a little online research.  We are a bunch of random strangers, and I'm willing to bet most of us went to college.  I personally don't have experience with non-college routes.  And yet I was able to post several ideas upstream on this thread.  Are you really saying that you cannot think of how to guide your daughter, or be resoruceful enough to figure it out?[/quote]

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