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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ bitch. Think about his wife and kids.  I’d cut you.[/quote]

Not all women are the same. I understand why a married man would be a good option for some women. 
I would not divorce over an affair. I told my DH that years ago. There is more to marriage than sex. Some people do not care. I would not. I also can see why being a mistress can keep a man in a marriage he would otherwise leave and in that case, the wife and kids should be thanking her for avoiding a divorce.

Not everyone views marriage as some black and white romantic fairytale. Also, blame the person going outside the family (which may be what they need to stay)...that is the person people should blame. Not the OW. [/quote]

I agree with part of what you said. I'm more practical where my kids and finances comes first. A man isn't my everything at least not romantically.  If my DH cheats it's not worth divorcing over some silly W.  That being said she is equally a co-cheater and messed with my family. I would have no problem showing up at her work, or telling her family all about her. Once she came into my playground she invited me into hers.

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Someone who is cheating is rarely *just* cheating, and it is not just about sex. They may be spending significant money on their affair, 'working late' and spending less time with your kids, having unprotected sex (risking your health and another baby), saying awful things about you, sleeping with a coworker and risking their job, and spinning a narrative in their own heads which justify the affair and also justify all other kinds of resentment and acting-out toward you. At a minimum, they are lying to you. [/quote]

Exactly. One of my friends suddenly noticed her over 50 spouse acting critical of her. They had a good marriage (or so she thought) and other changes that prompted her to check on him. She put a gps on his car. Found out before and after work he was parking at random places for a hour or 2.  Often it was a shopping center.  I told her to locate his car and park far enough away he wouldn't see her.  The AP dropped him off, and she followed the AP to her house and obtained the address, her name and everything about her. 
She also erased the Textme app from his phone, and called the AP telling her if she contacted her spouse again there would be serious consequences.  Never said anything to her spouse, and to date he hasn't cheated but her feelings toward him are completely over.  Mind boggling because he lost a lot over a dud of a interloper.  Actually I seen a few similar things with other friends and acquaintances over the years. Sad when the kids find out and want nothing to do with the cheating parent. It's definitely cheating on the entire family, not just the spouse.
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I literally do not know why she went to so much trouble. Wouldn’t you just divorce him? Is such a guy worth it? [/quote]

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