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A sexless wife must divorce if she feels this way. [b]All sexless marriages are simply DADT.[/b] Men do not remain celibate. She has all the information she needs. If you are in a “sexless” marriage, your spouse isn’t sexless they are just going elsewhere. If that’s a problem then divorce now.  [/quote]

OMG shoot my now. I'm starting to believe this I've read it on this stupid board so many times.[/quote]

I am not the guy who writes this, and I think he is an idiot for dispensing advice such as declaring your marriage open.  But that being said, he's probably right that most marriages that are sexless for some reason other than illness, old age, childbirth, are DADT and someone is getting it on the side.  Most, not all.  Celibacy doesn't last over time.  You really think people with healthy sex drives go years without it?[/quote]

OK I'm tired of hearing it from that a-hole about DADT.  Go on the other thread where women are surprised by their husbands cheating.  So, 2 points:
--many women are surprised when husbands cheat.  This is on husbands since they have not communicated effectively
--many women say that they were having sex while husbands were cheating.  Cheating is a character issue, not a wife issue

Men on here need to stop finding excuses for cheating and not telling wives.  Wives need to make a decision on what they want to do after discovering your cheating themselves, don't make that decision for them by hiding it.  That's being patronizing.  This is not the 1950's.[/quote]

Sexless wives on here need to stop blaming their men for going elsewhere. If you don’t want sex, either divorce or accept that your marriage is DADT. Very few men with a normal sexlife at home ever cheat. Stop skipping over the overwhelming majority case to focus on the fractional minority case.

When a man in sexless marriage goes elsewhere it is NOT cheating. He is doing his wife a solid by not divorcing her. If she wanted divorce, she would just divorce. There are no secrets or hiding of information. She knows that aren’t having sex. That obviously means he’s having sex elsewhere.[/quote]

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