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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too  astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during  the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends.   I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits.  My gf told me one time her  DH  didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she  just laughed  it off  :roll:  I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion. [/quote]

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home.  We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys.  We even worked out together and often drive the kids to  practices together.  He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

[b]They met on Fridays during his work hours.  In her house.  He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.[/b]

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no.  22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year.  So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.  [/quote]

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory.  would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours?  do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?[/quote]

Similar with mine.  Mine was with a co worker and she and him went to a hotel during the day.  I had zero idea.  No work trips, no staying out let, she had almost no friends, etc.[/quote]
Same. "How could I be having an affair? I'm home every night." That's how. [/quote]

Yep. And I used to be like that FBI lady, confident nobody would ever to do that to me. I knew the MO, all the tricks cheaters used and I paid attention and questioned everything.  No boys only trips and all that.  No separate vacations or away from the family weekend days.  No nights out with just the boys.  And...same thing happened to me.  They do eventually get sloppy carrying the lie and that’s when you find out—with surprise and shock because none, zero, Nada of the signs were there.

As another person said, you cannot believe it unless it happens to you.  It has given me the attitude that I know anyone is capable of anything.  Some of the mousy (non bad boy) straight arrows in our neighborhood were found out to be cheaters.  And everyone was shocked.[/quote]

Whatever! It’s still not that difficult to catch a cheating spouse. How about checking their phone?  But I suppose all the blindsided women think that’s an invasion of privacy?  :D   My DH doesn’t have his phone locked and once in a blue moon I’ll check it. If your DH has his phone locked that’s a sign. My friends spouse traveled during the week, home on weekends. I asked her if she ever checked his phone. She responded, omg never, if I did that it would mean I don’t trust him and trust is everything!. Hmmm he was having an affair and she left him.  I was so shocked.  :roll: [/quote]

Oh, dear. If your husband KNOWS that you check his phone then why would he ever have conversations with another woman where you can see it? What exactly are you checking when you're on his phone? Calls and texts? Are you checking apps?? Facebook, Instagram, Twitter because it goes down in the DMs in case you haven't heard. Plenty men cheat during the work day. Do you know for certain that he's at work every day that you see him heading out for work? I doubt it. One thing I know for sure, is you can't be too sure of anything. If a man wants to cheat, he will and all your snooping on his phone won't stop it. He has an office phone, right? [/quote]

Wow, you won’t give up, will you? Gloating without shame. You are so high on your high horse. Whatever makes you happy in life. [/quote]

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