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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok guys. Here’s our group. How are you handling this? What has worked; what hasn’t? How will we go on in this situation? Let’s discuss. [/quote]

So moral judgments aside:

My situation - 15 years married, 2 kids in middle school, have gone from sex 1-2 a month to once a season lately at best (and 0 for winter).

What works - completely giving up on your spouse as a sexual partner.  Sounds counter-intuitive but its true.  The sexual frustration and cycle of initiation and rejection is what is toxic.  I take care of myself at least daily so I have nothing in the tank for her.

Also, exercise, dressing well.  Going out more, ignoring the depressing nights of just sitting beside her on the couch while she surfs facebook or watches reality tv.  Flirting, paying genuine compliments to women.

What doesn't work - scheduling sex, buying her toys, lingerie, vacations, hotels, inviting her to explore fantasies.

Can being in a sexless marriage work long term?  For her, yes.  For me, no.  Short term, it's actually better to accept it than to try and fix an unfixable situation.[/quote]

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