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[quote=Anonymous]WOHM now, SAH early years but did small things to keep current. I’m team OP as I see/ hear this quite a bit in my surroundings. The issue for me is when a spouse tells you they need something from you ( repeatedly) and you ignore.

He recognizes they are not where they need to be financially and tries to get her to understand. She ignores or thinks she can deal when kids out of house. If she was depressed and needed help, I hope he wouldn’t say wait til kids grown. He’s asking for help.

I have no idea but I’m guessing you’ve had these talks repeatedly over the years and I imagine they came from understanding, maybe excitement- like we can even take a trip, maybe reality - like yikes college getting closer, and now like reality - 10 more years til retirement! I’m sure today you are just frustrated.

At neighborhood gatherings over the years I have had other DH share similar and also DWs tell me X is  really pushing them to work — almost always because college looming. Never for just “ I don’t want to support you.”

Look none of it is easy. I still do a lot more than DH as I have the big picture- school events, doctors, extracurriculars, friends, family, Cleaning but that’s life. I tell/ask what I need from him and he does it. Does it occur to him when he gets his teeth cleaned that 3 dc need it - no. But I do do I make appointments and if I can’t go because of work he will.

Marriage, family, work, financial responsibility, child care, personal care, personal growth are all parts of life. One cannot over take everything else indefinitely.

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