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[quote=Anonymous]I used to love hosting when my kids were younger and things were easier (the preschool years).  When my kids were under age 4 and my life was more together all the time, we would entertain often--yearly family Halloween party, yearly 4th of July BBQ,  families over for brunch twice a month, tons of playdates, lots of family friendly dinners, etc.  We'd have people over at least twice a month, and then a large group (15 or 20) for the larger events.  I enjoyed hosting and was good at it, and I thought I was helping to build our community when I was hosting and entertaining (we have no local family).  I'd put together really nice Sunday brunches--simple, but nice, and have a few families over twice a month. I'd spend all Saturday cleaning and shopping and Sunday would be the brunch.  I'd put out a nice assortment of bagels, muffins, fruit salad, a breakfast casserole, yogurt parfeits, etc. and people would always come over and have a nice time but never invited us to their house--or to do anything.

Then when my oldest turned 5 things started getting harder (I feel that the older my kids get the more challenging they are--little kids, little problems; big kids, big problems sort of thing).  My life started to feel like one stressful situation after another (oldest was having problems in Kindergarten, got an ADHD diagnosis; younger one was diagnosed with an unusual health condition, etc.) and I no longer had the energy or enthusiasm for hosting.  I also realized that people were barely ever reciprocating and that annoyed me.  I felt resentful that I was hosting all the time and that we barely got invited anywhere.

So this year (starting this past summer) DH and I decided we would not do any entertaining all year except the occasional afternoon playdate (maybe every other month) and the kids' birthday parties.

I wonder if people wonder why we don't invite them over anymore.

I must say I prefer this lack of hosting to when we hosted all the time.[/quote]

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