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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a common theme among divorced dads. [/quote]

Workaholic victims of their wives running the entire household, child raising, family schedule etc herself once she realized she can’t count on her spouse for much of anything. [/quote]

The irony is many of these Dads seem to make it work with 50% custody.[/quote]

I have a friend considering divorce now.  Her husband doesn’t do anything.  I don’t have the heart to explain to her that her normal college educated husband is most likely going to start parenting once he had the kids 50% of the time.  All of a sudden the kids will be clothed, they will have dinners to eat, driven around etc when they are with dad.  [/quote]

I'm a dad who was doing 75 percent when I was married. Now I have the children half of the time and it feels like I am on vacation. They have clean clothes, dinners, lunches, play dates, summer camps, birthday parties, and all the other stuff the ex claimed she could only uniquely provide.  These are all easy to things to do.  My ex used to whine endlessly about laundry, but she never did mine and if I volunteered to do the laundry she'd say "You'll just screw it up!"

Things are better now, in a clean house, without the ex-pig around.

Other divorced dad friends of mine have had the same experience. One who never did housework, who thought after divorce he would need a housekeeper and cook to replace his worthless SAHM [b]is now amazed at how easy things like laundry and cooking dinner are.[/b] He says, "I wonder what she was doing the other 10 hours of the day?" 
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I get that you think this makes SAH wives look worthless, but a grown man who doesn't know how to cook or do laundry until after getting married, having kids, and then getting a divorce was a shitty partner, full stop.  This is basic adulting.  He wasn't even a decent roommate, let alone spouse.[/quote]

This man did know how to cook and clean (he had once been a line cook, and had lived on his own for 15 years before having a late marriage) but that was over 25 years ago. He had forgotten how to cook. He and his kids eat a lot better now that he's cooking. He didn't file for divorce either, his ex-wife did. He wanted to stay married but she was looking to cash out of the marriage into a full retirement lifestyle.

This isn't the only guy I have seen this happen to. 
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