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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m currently breastfeeding but we are struggling. I’m choosing to stick with it three more weeks until baby is 6 weeks old. Baby has some latching issues we are working on but I’m pretty much exclusively pumping at this point. My MIL has been present during and is aware of the struggles, and she’s been pretty vocal about how she feels BFing isn’t necessary, baby will be fine if I choose to switch to formula, etc. She didn’t BF. She showed up to visit yesterday and before she left she pulled out a tub of formula. She have it to me and told me basically, here’s this, one day you might get desperate, and you’ll have it. I’m pretty pissed off about the whole thing. DH says to ignore it, she’s just trying to help. I feel she’s trying to insert herself and thinks she’s right. Before I proceed, am I just being sensitive?[/quote]

OP - I BF and was not prepared for hard and time consuming it was with my first. I needed support and a champion on my side to encourage me to keep at it. My mom was not that person. She kept on with the comments about not getting enough, doing it too much, too little, not being covered up and on and on..... fortunately everything settled out and I was successful.  With my second my milk wasnt coming in, she wasnt latching and constantly crying - both of us. My sister calmly talked to me and said it's ok if its not going as planned.  Keep at it and I know it will work itself out. in the mean time you baby is hungry, start with just one bottle to take the edge off her and you and then put her to breast. I felt like a complete failure but caved after several more unsuccessful feedings. It did help. I didn;t want it to, but baby finally felt full and I could relax and try feeding without all the chaos. After that BF was successful. Take the formula and say thank you and put it in the cabinet in case of emergency. Try not to take it personally. My mom did not BF and couldn;t even imagine doing it and was always making comments about formula. My MIL BF, was super encouraging and never said a single word to me about formula. I think there is this pressure and stigma around BF or formula and which camp you fall into even as far back as our parents. it's weird but I really do like the saying "Feed is best". Do what you what is best for you and your babies. take any advice with a grain of salt and think maybe that they got garbage about their choices and they are unconsciously paying it forward with their comments. [/quote]

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