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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - we are traveling, and I have not been able to check in. Wow, I am seeing some crazy comments here. I am not going to go into more details about how things exactly happened and how our aftercare functions, but many of the things some of you described is incorrect.

It is surprising to me how some of you view the world. The way you think no-one but you should be able to talk to your child. I am not a stranger to those kid; the four kids (my two and the other two siblings) spend the entire afternoon together in aftercare 5 days a week, every single week.  They are friends. Most of the time I arrive a bit earlier than the other Mother and the kids are playing together and I say hello to those other kids. They are nice kids, nice to me and my kids. But kids fight, but next day they make up. The kids are nice. The mother is not friendly and never says hello to me or my kids. Maybe she thinks that's normal, but it is not normal for me. The aftercare does not have sufficient supervision.  I was nice to those kids when I chatted with them. It was not a lecture. It was a usual chat and I included maybe once sentence about what happened the day before. And the next day all four of them played together again, as they usually do.

There is so much drama in E.S. aftercare, it is not easy sometimes to manage kids of different grade levels who are still learning how to socialize. It's much more challenging than the regular classrooms where kids are more or less the same age.

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In your post, you said the other parent seemed upset you were talking to her kid. Many of us said we would also not want you talking to our kids. We don’t want you correcting our kids in a friendly way. You are not listening to anyone.

If it was a kid at your house for a play date and we hang out together, of course I would be fine with you talking to my kids. These are people we have relationships with.

It is obvious the mom does not like you and does not want you talking to her kids. Take a hint, lady.[/quote]

Yeah, well than maybe the kids should not come up to me to chit-chat either, right? Every evening I am there for pick-up for 5-15  minutes waiting for the kids to get ready. It's obvious that the other kids want to engage. The other Mother had no clue what was going on when she arrived, and she just assumed something was wrong with the kids, that's why she seemed upset. I am not sure if you know how aftercare works or how pick-up takes place. Also, at least I am friendly my kids' friends and don't ignore them. Unlike the other mother who totally ignores my kids and never even looks at them or says hello when she picks up her kids. Even though she very well knows that they play together the entire afternoon, every single school day. Now that is strange for me. 
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You are right. I don’t. I stay home. I do pick up my kids from after school activities and sports. Every parent of my kids’ friends at least says hi to me. If our kids are friends and we see them around school, activities, parties and play dates, we are friendly. We will talk while waiting for our kids to finish, kids sometimes ask for play dates, we make plans or not.

I would not want to hang out with you and may avoid you too.[/quote]

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