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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not this pp, but if I did this, I would have to never go to another family event again. Sometimes the rest of the family members are also bullies and inappropriate, and think it's "fine". I've have never had an interaction where being direct solved anything in my family.

OPs solution is awesome![/quote]

Yup.  Some of you think that creating tension and calling people out will change them.  It doesn't.  Many of these people are as set in their ways as many of you.

The point is that you can choose to do what you need to do with or without calling them out and creating a scene.  Some of us love OP's solution because she did what she needed to do for her family without creating all that drama and tension in the family.  You aren't going to change them.  You can choose to ban them from your house but you'll often find that if you just avoid going to events where these people are, that you will not see your extended family for many events.  Most family members are just going to reply "Oh, sorry you can't make it, but the invitation is open if you change your mind," and will go about their business.

I am like OP.  I do what I need to do for my spouse and kids without calling out the family members who are hosting.  In my case, I always have a car, and I always make sure we stay someplace where we can do what we need for food.  If there is no food in the house, we take the kids out to a playground, to go and run errands or to go someplace that the other adult family members won't want to go.  I can figure out food options once we're out of the house and out of sight.[/quote]

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