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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Then divorce you say? Go back to why they are cheating in the place instead of divorcing. They don't want to throw the proverbial baby out with the bathwater. They may love and care about their families and don't want to get divorced or break up their family unit.[/quote]

No. Just, no. Cheating is a passive aggressive way of blowing up a marriage. You are choosing to do something that is a dealbreaker, intentionally deceiving your spouse in the hope that they find out and make the decision to end the marriage for you.  That is what a coward does.  A coward is someone who is too afraid to face the consequences of their actions.  Full stop.  [/quote]

You have the sequence wrong. Follow carefully:
1. One spouse stops wanting sex
2. Normal libido spouse cheats

The marriage already “blew up” at step 1. The rejecting partner SHOULD initiate the divorce before step 2 ever happens. I mean if a spouse is so terrible that you don’t even want sex with him, then get divorced already!!! Don’t be a sexless coward. Face the consequences of your sexless action. Full stop.  There is no step 2.[/quote]

You're carrying on and on about sexless marriages and completely ignore the fact that in many marriages shaken by adultery, sex happens (well, happened before the discovery) at a good clip.  The cheater isn't really doing it because he (or she) gets no sex at home.  They do it because they want new sex with a new person, or because they are no longer interested in having sex with their partner for any number of reasons that come with everyday adult life - monotony, change in appearance, old resentments, fatigue, family stress, whatever.  [/quote]

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