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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^no you just sound bitter. Seriously get help for your bitterness.  You don’t sound logical.[/quote]
You just do not like my position: a sexless person must bring forth the reasons for their sexlessess, divorce, or accept infidelity.
Your position is simply the biased inverse: a cheater must (somehow!) ascertain/fix why their spouse doesn't want sex, divorce, or accept celibacy.

You not liking my position does not make my bitter, illogical, in need of help. I could make same childish claims of you.[/quote]

This may be difficult for you but it’s not complicated. You made a vow and you are breaking or have broken it. You say you do it or did it because of what someone else is/was doing. That is the excuse of a child: “but they made me do it!”  As an adult, you can only control what you do and only you control what you do. You cheat or cheated. You. Simple, perhaps difficult for you. [/quote]

Those vows are bidirectional: one does not pledge sexual fidelity to a spouse who cares nothing about sexual needs. Both sides of this vow are broken. I am neither making excuses,  nor assessing blame, because there is no wrong here to excuse or offense, only choices. One spouse chooses not to have sex, another chooses to have it elsewhere. Neither is better or worse or morally right or wrong. My logic is precisely the same as yours... just the opposite position. Too bad that you do not like this. I would advise you either maintain a healthy sex life or divorce.[/quote]

Sorry, buddy. You are assessing blame and making excuses: “It’s Spouse’s fault I cheated! Spouse made me do it!” This is exactly what you are saying. And yes, it is a choice. A choice between honesty and mendaciousness. And yes, it is a moral issue - are you saying that lying is not a moral issue? You choose to lie; no one is making you do it. And you lie to your children too. [/quote]
Again, I can make equal claims about you blaming and making excuses for a sexless spouse ("it's HIS fault ... that I withhold sex"). That is an equivalent choice. What do you mean honesty? Who is lying? About what? Who what do the children have to do with this at all? You still do not make any sense![/quote]

Wow. Denial is right.

PP, are you cheating or have you cheated on your spouse? By that I mean, have you had sex with another person while married and without telling your spouse? You do remember promising not to do that, right?

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