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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. I have given up being the friendly, chatty, welcoming neighbor.

I used to say hi and chit chat at the kids'  bus stop. I used to bring a note and a gift basket through our HOA to personally welcome new neighbors. I used to say hello at our kids' sporting events, even start a conversation.
I've even house sat during a funeral, delivered sympathy cards, helped two neighbors pack up and move, hosted impromptu play dates when a parent was unexpectedly unable to get kid from school.

I feel used. Not one of these people I attempted to befriend or displayed general kindness ever responded, or reciprocated or called or I'd guess, appreciated or cared. So, I'm done. There's a neighborhood group like the Club PP mentioned. I'm not a part of it.

And now I'll wave at you as I drive past. Don't know any of the people who have moved in recently.

Am I socially aggressive? Maybe, but providing perspective here. I don't want to bother attempting to establish a friendship when basic kindnesses are dismissed.

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Me too, to this entire thread. I’m done. I have a core group of friends I’ve made and I don’t have time or desire for any more. I threw a huge Halloween party every year and realized after year 4 (yes, I can’t believe it took that long either) to realize 75% of the people I only saw at Halloween. 
I am not open to making new friends, I’m content with my circle, and probably could be called a mean unfriendly mom because no, I don’t want to be your friend. [/quote]

But, you could at least be pleasant.  I don't think I'd want to be your friend either![/quote]

Exactly.  I have 3 middle schoolers on 3 travel sports teams and a full time job and husband who travels and I barely make it through many weeks.  I really have no time to meet new friends.  However, I always say hi to people I pass in hallways, I'm friendly on soccer sidelines, etc.   OP is talking about moms who won't acknowledge the existence of other people who they don't deem important enough.  And mostly these moms (the socially aggressive ones) have the most free time.  They're not socially aggressive because they're busy and harried--quite the opposite.   [/quote]

Yes to all of this! I live in an area of mostly SAHM even to kids in MS and HS. Their behavior is exhausting. [/quote]

Yers, yes, yes.[/quote]

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