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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Go Nats! I’m sure their parents held them back. Funny, isn’t it watching the best of the best.

To play at that level requires a parent who believed in you, your talent and lots and lots of practice.

And telling you an 84 B is not going to get you where you want to go. [/quote]

No hun, it takes talent. God given talent.

I have a 19yr old at MIT. I never managed his grades, didn't use spreadsheets, wasn't involved with his homework.

My 8th grade he was being bussed to the high school for math. By 10th grade he was DE in college for math and physics. We were faced with the decision to allow him to graduate high school at 15 or slow roll school. We slow rolled school for his social growth.  He could talk circles around DH and I before be was legally allowed to drive a car. I did not have to wring my hands over 84s because my academically gifted child didn't bring home 84s and if he did he would have moved on with life. As would I because my child is not defined by his academic excellence. There is more to him than his achievements at school.

He was born this way. Elite Athletes are also born this way and have a internal love for the game. Not all parents ride their kids like a rented mule.[/quote]

The real top tier elite athletes are internally driven.[/quote]

Right, but it makes it easy when you never miss, much like my son with academics.  Sure he could sit around and play video games and waste his talent, but what takes him 10% effort to achieve, takes someone else 100% effort and that person still can never reach is ability to absorb information and then translate that to something relevant.

For instance Hakeem Olajuwon for basketball

You think Dikembe Mutombo parents in the Congo in the middle of a civil war has to ride him like rented mule? I doubt he even had access to a basketball court. He came to the US on a USAID scholarship at Georgetown and only picked bball "on the side".

One does not have to force talent like the OP. You support your kids in their efforts, you give them confidence by LETTING GO and not berating them,  and you you allow them their own accomplishments. If you find yourself, like the OP , berating and harassing them under the guise of "reality" you are doing something terribly wrong as a parent, and whatever talent they do have will probably get crushed under the rubble of the torn down self esteem.

It is exactly the OPs type of parenting that leads to poor outcomes for UMC kids who logically should have great outcomes, but then they end up with a mother like the OP and they are up the creek, fu%ked.

I guess I'm in a position with 3 children, with one spectacularly talented.  I see that "academic success" needs to come from the child not the parents thinking they can beat their kids into their own unfulfilled dreams. and BTW, I see parents doing this with sports ALL.THE.TIME. The kid comes off the field or court and immediately the parent starts criticizes the kids "hustle" or telling the kid they need to be "more aggressive". It is pointless and frankly, sad.[/quote]

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