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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not critical nor do I care what other people choose to do. But it is interesting that though I know lots of women who didn’t take their husband’s last name, I do not know a single child who has their mother’s maiden name as their surname.

For everyone saying some version of “I kept my name bc it was my identity but my children were blank slates” why does it follow that you would then give your children your husband’s name? Just because they’re a blank slate, they get their dad’s name instead of their mom’s because...?

Like I said, I really don’t care. But it does seem a little strange.[/quote]

I think it’s because a lot of men/husbands feel strongly that kids get their name so women/wives just go along with that. Hopefully one day it won’t be like that anymore.[/quote]

Yes, it’s because majority of men care about this. Either they’re conservative, traditional, controlling, sexist. But I’d bet it’s almost always the men who have a strong opinion on this and their wives don’t want to rock the boat[/quote]

I think it’s because even the most feminist woman knows she wants her husband to provide for her baby.  Giving the baby his last name makes it very clear who is responsible.  Sad but that’s the truth.

I have an equal marriage.  We coparent and sharing housework and parenting.  My husband supports my career.  But at the end of the day, he has more a responsibility to have a job than I do.  I could become a SAHM.  It wouldn’t be socially acceptable in our circle for my husband to stay home.  I’m glad that my husband has a sense of providing for his family, especially children he brought into this world.  If giving kids his last name goes along with this then so be it.  I’d rather kids have his last name and have him take responsibility than kids have a different name and the dad has no responsibility like a baby daddy.

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