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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You will be the booty call of lots of a$$holes you will find online.  You will certainly catch HPV.

You will not get married again, unless you find a man in the same situation as you.  Your next spouse will probably be 15 years older than you or more.

You will be doing the childcaring on your own. Your kids will get messed up and need therapy. Your DH will move on and have a new family.

Your HHI will be impacted.  It is rough out there.  [/quote]

PP here. I got HPV from my husband. 50% of women get it by age 50. Not a big deal. 
Who cares about getting remarried? Never again. 
50/50 custody—I will be doing less childcare, actually 
Kids will not need therapy. They will be fine. Their life will not change that much. 
(I am messed up from parents who stayed married in a terrible marriage.)
DH is done with kids. Unlikely to remarry ever: but if he does, I am ok with it. He will get a prenup to protect kids’ assets. 
Who cares about HHI? Yes, it will be less. But I am 40% of the wealth. My quality of life will decrease. It is worth the emotional cost of staying in a marriage wasting more years that will ultimately end in divorce anyway.

You are making huge assumptions about divorce that are not universally true.[/quote]

LOL, you think you can tell in advance that they won't need therapy? What a joke.  Nobody can predict that.  And double LOL to the idea your DH and his new wife will agree to a prenup.  New wives look out for their own children first.  It is you making huge assumptions![/quote]

Neither of us is interested in remarrying ever. He would also never marry anyone with children and he does not want more children. [b]My kids will not need therapy. Their lives will hardly change at all. Only difference is that they will spend time with us separately. We will be nesting for a few years. They have never known us to share a bedroom. Not much will change[/b].[/quote]

Take a look at "The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce".

Basically, everyone thinks what you have bolded here... but it is simply not true.[/quote]

It is true we’ve been living like this for years.  My kids are not gonna know any difference of whether were married or divorced except I’m not there three nights a week.  That’s like a work trip. Both of my parents were absentee parent and they were married.  I can assure you that my kids will see us both more than I ever saw in my absence he married parents and will be so much better off regardless of a divorce or not.  The problem with you divorce disaster posters is that you automatically assume that all marriages are the same and they are good to begin with. What a marriage is never really good or normal it’s not that big of a deal to get a divorce because often times it’s better than staying married and the marriage when the kids see a bad example of what a marriage looks like. You’re not gonna see any kind of decline in affection or hanging out or having dates or spending holidays together blah blah blah we have not been doing that for years.  It’s time to stop pretending. Only difference is that mommy and daddy won’t be husband and wife anymore and will be legally single.  It’s not some big traumatic transition they’re staying in the same house. [/quote]

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