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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sadly it is part of our culture nowadays.  It is all about
"me, me, me"  without any thought to the original partner.

It is the hipster thing to have multiple partners in marriage
and multiple partners in monogamy.  Even writing the former sentence is weird.

"Gee, I'm bored in my marriage of 20 years so of course
it is okay for me to have affairs." This should not
bother my monogamous partner.

Those who don't support that multiple partners in monogamy are okay are dismissed as "ignorant".

Ultimately it is a degradation of values in our western
society.

Yeah, a good traditionalist would just remain in an unhappy marriage for years and years and not mention they have important needs and feelings that are not being met.  That's just great!
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I disagree that you can call the person a traditionalist then.  And there is a socially acceptable remedy to this, it’s called divorce.

You seem to be overlooking the needs of the kids.  The feelings of the adventurous spouse are completely focused on meeting their own sexual desires as if it’s the only important consideration.  A responsible parent would not want to do anything to undermine their childrens’ family.  What does she tell the kids, “Oh I can’t be there for you 50% of the time anymore because I want to be with Pat now, too?”  That’s hedonism, self-indulgence and selfish.

What if Pat wants more time — who does she please?  Does her DH or her kids get a say?  What do you think happens if all she does is follow her feelings?  Everyone else’s life gets controlled by her feelings of desire du jour.

Time to grow up.  Or don’t get married.

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+1 Not surprised if DW is a lesbian. Had the wedding, husband & kids, check. Now she wants to do what she wants WITH DH approval.

BTW  long term monogamy is NOT boring, if you are still attractive to your spouse, physically & mentally. Disrespect, resentment, & contempt kill relationships- not "boredom".[/quote]

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