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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This situation also highlights some of the ADVANTAGES that "power couples" have.  Two focused parents, two high-end earners, and two strong social networks provides exponential value to the family.  Been around a lot of women who earn north of 500K even after stepping back from their careers for a few years when their kids were young.  Their husbands all make more.  Its the optimal way to proceed and I can see why younger women are pursuing that path - I did and there are too many examples around to miss the value.  [/quote]

Whether it's optimal or not - the point is, you would rather be unmarried if you can't have a man who makes north of 500k? Because that is what the article is saying.[/quote]

No.  I would rather be unmarried than be married to someone who does not earn the same range as I do.  I make $300.  If, as the woman, I can be expected to be the default parent/primary caregiver and manage the household, then my partner needs to bring something to the table.  He can't make $100 and say that's his contribution.  I want equitable.[/quote]

Have you ever had an actual relationship? Not everything is about money. In fact, once you have enough money, it tends to become a non issue and other things take precedence. That's one of the nicest things about having money - it alleviates all the stress.[/quote]

Except in this scenario the stress will always be on the female spouse as she’s bringing in the HHI to maintain their SOL.

Which is why she’s being picky before getting locked down.[/quote]

I don't know why you would assume this. I SAH, my husband makes 700k +, AND he's 50/50 equal partner at home and with kids. He does that because he was raised to believe that's what "good husbands" and "good fathers" do.

Those men definitely exist. I feel like you are probably not giving them a chance though because they don't "make enough" according to you.

But what about the emotional connection though? Companionship? Someone to talk things over with and just laugh with? Someone to have regular sex with?

Yes you can raise a child on your own. But you will miss the joy of sharing it with someone. One of the best parts of having a child ime is hearing them say something cute and funny and then looking over at my husband and seeing him smile and know that we are thinking the exact same thing at the same time because we both love that child in the same way.[/quote]

What about this don’t you get? You don’t make any income. Of course, you’re happy with just providing companionship. I’m pretty sure if you divorce your tune will change as you fight for alimony and diminished child support.

What we’re saying is that women who KNOW the man they’re dating isn’t making a income high enough for them to not support the household have to be more careful.[/quote]

Now you're changing your tune. There are women in here point blank saying, if a man can't earn over 100k, he's not worth getting to know. And other people are saying, you ought to rethink that because there is a LOT more to a healthy relationship than money.[/quote]

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