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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I completely agree with a lot of PPs that this is a phase and things will get better, and things like outsourcing might help the day to day, and give you a mental break.

But I also wanted to add, for you and for others who feel they regret children.... this is a classic "the grass is always greener" situation. You don't actually know that you'd be happier if you did not have kids because that is not possible. And same goes for kids who are child-free for whatever reason. So - and this goes for everyone reading this thread - stop trying to figure out what you're getting out of having children. Actually, stop trying to do that for EVERYTHING. Because this is life, and it's not always fantastic and amazing. Sometimes it just is. That doesn't make it bad and doesn't mean you should be miserable about it. You don't have to have everything or be perfect to be happy.

There are a million reasons why you might feel like you're unhappy, so you just have to determine what it is. Are you comparing yourself to others too much? Are you overtired? Do you miss your career? And on and on and on... and once you figure it out, change it. It's not the same answer for everyone. And if you can't identify it, then yeah, maybe it could be a PPD/depression thing. But again, this applies to anyone whose feeling like they regret their choices. Try to think about people who have been handed a bad deal that was not by choice, and imagine what you would want to be like in that kind of situation. I try to remember that there are people out there facing much worse than I am , and they still go about their day with a smile on their face. That's someone I admire and I want to be like them, so I'm not going to sit here and wallow in things I cannot change.

I know this all sounds a bit rainbows and unicorns - and trust me, I am NOT that kind of person - but sometimes you really do just have to choose to be happy with what you've got. Sometimes it's the best you can do. [/quote]

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