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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We aren’t fat at all but we are not thin enough for MIL. I think she is trying to get us to lose a few pounds while we visit them, as well as demonstrate her own bizarre “discipline”. She does not serve lunch and has wine for dinner mostly.[/quote]better than our situation. We go visit for a week and all they eat or serve is breakfast and an small early dinner. They come stay with us and eat 3-4 meals a day, snack constantly, and want dessert immediately after each dinner. Sweet tooth.[/quote]

Haha! I relate to this too![/quote]

So what do you do when you visit and want to eat? Get a take out or go somewhere to eat out? 
Honestly you all must be saints, I would not stay silent on the disparity between how they eat when they visit and how you're restricted when you visit - I would say something or stop the visits.[/quote]

NP here. I don’t think my MIL thinks we are fat, but they are shop every day people and they only buy exactly what they need for the day (so no delicious fruit bowl for when we arrive outside an appointed meal time having traveled across the country and perhaps our 4 year just can’t wait until dinner at that point). We now bring snacks for the kids so they aren’t hangry. Then the next thing we do is take a family trip to the grocery store because we now know, after many years of this, that dinner will be one chicken drumstick and 1/6 of a can of green beans per person. My husband is 6 and a half feet tall, he would faint on the diet they try to feed him when we visit. He claims they never used to be this odd about food, and I admit it has gotten worse, but I noticed strange habits around food from the first time I visited nearly 20 years ago now.  They also do what PP said and gorge themselves at our house. If it’s not nailed down it’s eaten and it seems like a challenge to them. If we’ve just gone to the Costco and therefore have a 3 pack of bacon in the fridge, they’ll see it and say “oh, lots of bacon needs to get eaten, we’ll help you take care of that.” And they will. 3 packs of bacon gone almost instantly and then they grumble wondering why there isn’t more bacon. My FIL is notorious for eating dinner ingredients. I’ve taken to putting the dinner for the night into stapled shut brown bags and writing “dinner ingredients 7/8/19” on them so that I don’t come home from work only to find the ground beef is all gone and I’ve got to run to the store or order take out to now cover dinner.[/quote]

They sound stingy, not wanting to spend their own money on food? Or traumatized by depression-era parents? Do they thrift and coupon a lot?[/quote]

No, in fact they are quite wealthy. They think nothing of going out and buying two BMWs in one fell swoop, but then have very strange spending rules around piddly little things. [/quote]

Omg. This is my in laws too- $$ millions in the bank, rental properties galore, 20 years of stock options- and they feed their guests hardly anything unless it’s a party. And they come here and eat everything and cook everything while we’re at work. They say things like, well I looked around at all your food and we had better eat everything before it goes bad. They also hide from the bill if we ever do go out to dinner. My husband is too embarrassed to take them out because they complain about the food, ask for shitloads of condiments that make no sense, and stiff the bill and don’t top.

We now think it their “game” to eat an equivalent or more of the cost of their plane tickets to visit. On us of course.

The other kicker is cooking and making lunchboxes etc the next few weeks after they’ve left and constantly finding depleted cartons or food everywhere. Such a waste of time. We wish they’d refill or replace what they annihilate on the sly. Or at least right it down so we’re not blindsided at the last minute. [/quote]

It sound like you are just preoccupied with food and eating. Are you and your family healthy?  [/quote]

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