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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is there so much antipathy towards people in marriages who choose to take care of their children  as their primary and best use of their time on earth. We only get one shot at parenthood. Children are our legacy on earth when we die. The total lack of respect for people who choose to prioritize their time for  their family over earning more money is shocking to me. [/quote]

Plus one.  what a backward society we live in where people only think a woman's Worth is contributing to a capitalist system and not spending quality time raising her children. This isn't to say, of course, that working mothers aren't also great mothers. But it's absolutely bonkers that we don't put equal or higher value on women who choose to devote their time raising their children.

and it's only women who attacked like this. [b]Men don't look down on stay-at-home parents the same way[/b][/quote]

Yes we do. Anyone who uses up social resources doing something like getting a medical or law degree and then sits on their ass at home is not just making their family worse-off, but making the entire country worse-off. [/quote]

I don't know any men who feel this way. I also know many men who got a medical or law degree, then ended up in a entirely different career. [/quote]

When I left my biglaw job to stay home after more than 10 years of working there, the women were pissed (apparently this is a no-no for the sisterhood) and the men were all congratulatory and telling me I was doing the right thing. Frankly, I didn’t GAF what anyone thought other than my family. I am not making decisions based on what is best for society. No one does that. [/quote]

Another biglaw partner here and this is spot on.  Honestly, many of the men would lean out if that was remotely a possibility and not get sidetracked or had a wife who made substantial money AND was cool with a "less than ambitious" husband.  When the women leave to spend more time at home, the reaction from men is "good for you" and from women it's a betrayal of the sisterhood.  Misery loves company.[/quote]

No. Newsflash. It’s because the other women know how hard it is to get to that level as a woman and the other women who missed out or were passed over so that this PP could bail as soon as she had kids. Men don’t get this viewpoint so they’re “happy” for a woman who does this. The other women feel frustration and anger on behalf of all the women who couldn’t get that far so someone who would squander it could. [/quote]

You again!  You're so angry.  Get help.[/quote]

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