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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm really perplexed at all the people saying "hire a house manager" etc.

We make over 800k and I wouldn't hire a house manager at our income. House managers cost a lot of money! You need to pay them a professional salary + benefits. Not worth it.

My husband is the breadwinner though I work too and make decent money (~150k). He is a detail oriented perfectionist and a CIO at his company. He's great at "mommy stuff" and remembering the kids' details.

I just don't get all these people in here saying men are bad at this stuff. They're not "bad" at it. They just don't want to do it so they make you think they are bad at it. There is a difference.

Someone who manages a portfolio of funds or works as a law partner should be able to manage a few details about the home front.[/quote]

So your husband makes 700k +, is a c-suite executive, and carries 50% of the load at home? You married a unicorn. Why are you in here bragging?[/quote]

I don't know if he's that uncommon or not but the point is, he shouldn't be. I signed up to be his partner, not his mommy. When we had our first baby and I went back to work, I basically told him "I'm going to do my part but not yours so you need to figure it out." and he did.

He's a great, super involved father and husband now and has been for years (our eldest is 10).[/quote]

Poor guy.

You sound like a peach.[/quote]

So there's basically one woman in here saying she's married to a high earning husband who does his part fully at home and you're criticizing how she made that happen? She's living the dream.[/quote]

Read her words.

Entitled, passive aggressive, condescending towards her dh.

[b]She may be living the dream, but I suspect he isn't.[/b][/quote]

Why because he's being held accountable for his own actions and "forced" to parent the children he chose to make? Shouldn't all men do that?[/quote]

Her own words:

I signed up to be his partner, not his mommy. When we had our first baby and I went back to work, I basically told him "I'm going to do my part but not yours so you need to figure it out."

Passive aggressive to say the least.

That guy will find a soul mate at some point in his life.[/quote]

Like anyone, he’s free to leave at any time. They can certainly afford to divorce and maintain two households. Yet they’re still married ten years later and he chose to have another 2 kids with her. Shrug.[/quote]

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