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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, either your husband has a girlfriend, or he is deliberately avoiding family life with you and your child.

Your options are a) do everything without him, as if you're a single parent, and stop waiting around for him or b) wake your son an hour earlier, and ALL of you go to soccer practice. Your son can eat a simple breakfast on the go, run around and get some fresh air while your husband coaches, and you can all go to a late brunch after or do something fun as a family before naptime. Don't be a victim, your husband isn't going to change his behavior, so you have to change yours. There's no need for your son to sleep in until 10 am every day. He will be fine with an hour less sleep. [/quote]

OP here. Hell no. My husband is trying to be in TWO soccer leagues and also coach another team. I do not "need" to go to his soccer practice every Saturday morning. This is BS. I left on Monday evening when he  told me he joined another soccer league. I am now staying at my parents house. I can't believe the advice I have been getting here. Basically I need to suck it up because my husband will never change. I don't want to be married to someone this selfish.

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It's not about "need" it's about "want."  I can tell you that I'd WANT to go watch my husband coach soccer/football every for the few weeks of the season (assuming school aged kids coach) because on weekends when I'm not working I enjoy being around him regardless of what we do.  It makes me happy to see him doing something he enjoys (fyi married 12 years, together 16 years).  My DH loves to run marathons, so I cheer him on on race day and during his longer pre-runs.  It's fun to surprise him and see his face light up when he comes around the trail corner and my DDs start cheering him.  He comes to watch my riding class probably once a month.  We support each other and what makes us happy.

I do wonder why he is joining so many leagues because it does seem like he is avoiding you and your child; and why you have a strong aversion to going to support him.  There probably is an issue that you and your DH need to work on, and I'd recommend couples counseling to get to the bottom of whatever that is.  I make this recommendation so you guys can be happy; I assume that is your goal - to be happy together? [/quote]

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