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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think the replies here have been on the harsh side, but the PP below had some good suggestions. In similar vein, here are three scenarios (from what I can see);

1 - something nefarious is going on that has nothing to do with soccer (very doubtful)
2 - DH is pulling away from family life because it's not his thing (maybe, maybe not)
3 - DH does not understand, on a base level, that you are now a three-person unit and he can't act like an untethered individual (most likely)

If he's not reacting to being told why that's a problem (annoying, but the reality), maybe you need to show him. Why don't you do some outside activity that will require him to stay home on some days or evenings? Why don't you make last-minute plans with friends too that he then has to work around? If he's entitled to do that, so are you. Just make sure you're being authentic and not inconveniencing one another on purpose, etc.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, either your husband has a girlfriend, or he is deliberately avoiding family life with you and your child.

Your options are a) do everything without him, as if you're a single parent, and stop waiting around for him or b) wake your son an hour earlier, and ALL of you go to soccer practice. Your son can eat a simple breakfast on the go, run around and get some fresh air while your husband coaches, and you can all go to a late brunch after or do something fun as a family before naptime. Don't be a victim, your husband isn't going to change his behavior, so you have to change yours. There's no need for your son to sleep in until 10 am every day. He will be fine with an hour less sleep. [/quote]

OP here. Hell no. My husband is trying to be in TWO soccer leagues and also coach another team. I do not "need" to go to his soccer practice every Saturday morning. This is BS. I left on Monday evening when he  told me he joined another soccer league. I am now staying at my parents house. I can't believe the advice I have been getting here. Basically I need to suck it up because my husband will never change. I don't want to be married to someone this selfish.

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