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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She is not making any choices "today". She is asking whether a possible future choice is feasible. Many people here who have confronted that choice have warned her that the answer is no, probably not. Yet she remains adamant about wanting what she wants. Which is fine, but it makes you wonder why she even asked for advice in the first place if she planned to ignore any advice that conflicted with her wants.

Everyone can understand wanting to "protect your kids from other men". Admirable enough, in its way. No doubt most divorced men would like their ex wives to have exactly that attitude. Yet we know, from observation of countless cases, that often enough the desire to protect the kids from strange men goes right out the window when the woman starts to have strong feelings for a man -- which is so common that we could regard it, for all practical purposes, as inevitable.[/quote]

Well I’m making that choice and saying yes. So I don’t care about other people’s experience, really, I’m just sharing mine. I’m young 40’s and am blessed with health and adventurousness and complete financial stability. I love having “my kids” then a good shag once or twice a week - and a long weekend away a month with NO kids. That’s great for me and I’ve found it- the hardest part is finding mid 40s men who weren’t financially undone by their divorce. I don’t need their money but I’m also not paying their way to go away w me.

At least the woman is there with her kids when she starts to develop these inevitable feelings you ascribe her. Her baby daddy long gone- maybe start judging him. [/quote]

OK, so how long have you been doing the NSA shagging thing? Any woman can do that for a short time, and it is a natural phase to go through after a divorce.

And what do you mean, "her baby daddy long gone"? OP is still married, her kid's father is not "gone".

Furthermore, if you are like the OP and think that it is wrong and undesirable to expose your kids to strange men you are shagging, then it doesn't matter whether your kids "baby daddy" is around or not, it's still wrong.[/quote]

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