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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this is you shortly after your divorce

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/788867.page

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OP here: Absolutely not. I have a moving on problem. I was never in love with my spouse. I was in love twice before and the second one broke me. I did not fall in love again and should never have married. I will not fall in love and will never want to introduce anyone to my family. Done with all of that. [/quote]

What you didn't get about the link -- that other OP [i]thought[/i] she was "done with all that" and had an FWB relationship, but eventually she caught feelz for the guy. You're currently deluded that you won't catch feelz. But you will.[/quote]

She may, she may not. Like your marriage may or may not. Like we all may or may not wake up tomorrow.

I agree. So for today she’s making the choice she is with the information at hand, and if things change, she will adapt.

This isn’t high level stuff folks the way some of you are agog about this is fascinating to me. Do you really think there’s only one way to “do” relationships?

My marriage was undone by a mentally ill and abusive man (head injuries- TBI) - please don’t have so little empathy as to not try to understand why I want to protect my kids from other men while enjoying sex and adult time. Or if you can’t,  do it on a thread for married people. [/quote]

She is not making any choices "today". She is asking whether a possible future choice is feasible. Many people here who have confronted that choice have warned her that the answer is no, probably not. Yet she remains adamant about wanting what she wants. Which is fine, but it makes you wonder why she even asked for advice in the first place if she planned to ignore any advice that conflicted with her wants.

Everyone can understand wanting to "protect your kids from other men". Admirable enough, in its way. No doubt most divorced men would like their ex wives to have exactly that attitude. Yet we know, from observation of countless cases, that often enough the desire to protect the kids from strange men goes right out the window when the woman starts to have strong feelings for a man -- which is so common that we could regard it, for all practical purposes, as inevitable.[/quote]

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