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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m on the 2nd episode and the abuse is sickening. But the age of some of these women was 17, 18. I knew exactly what I was doing at 15 and 16.  Maybe I didn’t understand the consequences of my actions, but I knew what my body was capable of and what I could elicit from adult married men.  Wtf is wrong with me that I can’t help but think they allowed these things because they wanted something from him. They were old enough to know better.  Am I a sicko too?[/quote]

Yes, you are, and you are also despicable for saying children allowed a man to rape them. Hopefully you don't have children of your own. [/quote]

+1. Teenagers have hormones that make them sexual, but they are not mature enough to handle a grown man. And children, especially kids from rough upbringings, crave positive adult attention. You take a girl from a difficult home environment and suggest to her that sex can make her get adult male attention (which is severely lacking in many poor homes, which tend to be headed by a single parent) and they will do it. You don't have any concept of the voids created by difficult childhoods-- or you wouldn't be saying it. It's like saying a starving prostitute is doing it because she *wants* to. It is exploitation of our most vulnerable population and your lack of empathy is sick, sick, sick. Please reflect on why it is wrong to exploit vulnerable teen girls. [/quote]

I'm the sicko... thank you for pointing out and making me think this through.  Sometimes I think my own maturity was stunted, since I got married and had a child myself at age 16.  (We've been married 30+ years and have a healthy and happy 3 kids.)  I tend to imagine everyone's situation into my own experience - we intentionally planned the pregnancy because "we were so in love: and he was leaving for the military.  Even though I realize how hard things would be, or the sacrifices we both made, I knew what I was doing and that it would have consequences.  (Only a 5 year age gap between us, though I was probably more mature than he was.)  But I didn't consider he was preying on girls with voids, as you state.  While my childhood was far from perfect, I wasn't running from anything.  I also don't lack compassion or empathy, though.[/quote]

oops, meant to say I DID NOT realize or foresee how hard the future would be compared to growing up, going to college, etc.... [/quote]

A 21 year old man should not be messing around with a 16 year old child. It is predatory, and you definitely lack empathy. You are blaming children, saying they allowed him to rape them. You are delusional![/quote]

Pp you misunderstood that poster. She was trying to apologize.  However, you said something beneficial that truly resonated with me.  When I was 16, I was pursued by a 21 year old. Although I had previous boyfriends my own age that wanted sex, I never gave  in. But I eventually did to this 21 year old after about a month. I thought he was everything and he was nothing. He took advantage of my vulnerability (living with relatives that weren’t my parents) and my naitivity. He took something’ so precious to me. Even when it happened it was under this guise of “just the tip” and before I knew it, it was happening. Although I didn’t plan to wait for marriage I was holding out for a fairytale romance. He was definitely a user and had many girls, not just me. I later felt victimized and wondered how the adults in my life ever allowed this relationship to happen. When I articulated this to my family members they looked at me as if I had two heads. They obviously thought I was to blame for allowing the relationship to happen and felt that I should’ve been able to make wiser decisions. So many bad things happened to me because of him. I thank God that after about 7 years I finally  got away from him.  Thank you for saying that at 16, I was a child. I needed to hear that. [/quote]

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