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[quote=Anonymous][quote=jsteele][quote=Anonymous][quote=jsteele][quote=Anonymous]No, you forgot option d)  - express sympathy that OP is the subject of gossip, and outrage that someone followed and photographed her, but also take issue with her exhortation that, "Before reporting suspected parents, please consider the hurt you may cause to those who truly don’t deserve it."  (And I think most people's response falls into that category.)  You claim she isn't suggesting that others shouldn't report their suspicions, but I'm not sure how else to take that comment.  She's obviously advocating that people not report.  Think it through - you suspect a parent of residency fraud.  Before reporting, you consider that your suspicions might be incorrect, but you still have the suspicions.  And then . . . what?  You either report or not report.

As for, "The OP is saying that before you report someone, you better be damn sure they are guilty because you are potentially going to unnecessarily cause them hurt," you're mistaken - she doesn't want that at all.  The part of this saga that has the OP most upset clearly is that another parent followed her and took pictures of her and her kids.  She repeatedly calls it stalking and harassment, and while I might not go that far, it certainly is disconcerting, and parents shouldn't do that.  But, how does that square with your suggestion that before reporting one must be "damn sure" the other parent is guilty?  How would one become "damn sure" about that?  [b]The only way is by doing one's own investigation[/b]- which is exactly the most troubling thing about this to the OP.  If the general advice and best practice is for parents to decline to become amateur private investigators, setting the reporting bar at "damn sure they are guilty" is *exactly* the wrong way to do it.

Your posts on this thread thus far have been limited to righteous indignation on behalf of the OP, but you haven't addressed the underlying issue.  So let me ask you directly - if a person has a good faith suspicion that another family at his or her kid's school is engaged in residency fraud, what do you think they should do?  
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Let me get this straight? You are actually advocating that parents follow other parents around, even photographing them, based on suspicions that they might be residency cheaters? That is what you consider proper behavior? I'm sorry, but that's insane.

If you know someone is cheating, turn them in. If you simply think they might be cheating, it's not your job to investigate. I might think you are cheating on your taxes. That doesn't mean I should dig through your trash can looking for financial statements does it? If you don't think current DCPS practices are sufficient to prevent cheating, then advocate for change. Becoming your own vigilante Inspector Clouseau is not the answer. Instead of spending your time trying to justify your suspicions, use that time getting to know other families. 
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You should get some coffee and read PP's post a bit more carefully.

She's advocating for the precise opposite :-)[/quote]

I don't drink coffee. The poster is clearing advocating that parents launch their own investigations. I even bolded that sentence.

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Not Jeff, but a lot of this drama seems to have occurred because the school confronted the OP with the photos not the parents. Not sure what the school said or if they told the OP who sent them. Not sure what school would do this' however, if it was not the principal and the registrar the OP should have made a complaint and if it was the principal what the hell are they doing running there own unofficial investigation. The school should have told the stalker not to stalk and that all investigation is handled by OSSE. Seems like even with the zealous parents, it's the school that created the drama. [/quote]

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