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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm guessing staying home was OP's idea, and her husband would have preferred she keep working - and that's why he's bean counting now.  I think OP would have mentioned it if he was the one who wanted her to stay home and subsequently became controlling.

So OP screwed the pooch: didn't plan ahead financially for her first son, and her DH was probably already resentful that he's the only one contributing financially, and now he's being asked to pay for what he sees as frivolous expenses for his non-bio son that neither bio parent is taking financial responsibility for.

OP also never said that bio dad was paying for college -- just that step dad was not paying for college.  I'm guessing stepdad's side of the story would be enlightening here.  [/quote]

This.  There's so much more to this story.

I am a stepmom to three kids who have been in or are in college right now.  DH also send his kids money every once in awhile.  Does it annoy me?  Yes.  Because we pay hundreds of dollars a month in parent plus loan costs for their tuition, room/board, books, etc. and our own household budget is extremely tight.  I think the very least they could be expected to do is earn their own spending money.  But do I say anything about it?  No.  I trust my DH to make the right decision and he was raised in a household where his parents gave money freely (and still do) and I was not.  We were raised to earn the money we need for clothes, socializing, textbooks, etc. and my parents would only help out if we were in dire straits.

Without knowing the full dynamic here, there's no way for anyone to give advice.  My sister is a SAHM whose husband resents her for not working.  They have these same arguments about money.  No "step" component to complicate the matters.  These disagreements happen outside of stepfamilies too. This is a marriage issue and needs to be viewed as such.  He doesn't respect or understand your position on the matter and you don't respect or understand his.[/quote]

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