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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I would tell them that you have developed a sensitivity/allergy to certain smells.  Say you haven't figured out the specific cause, but the sensitivity causes you to feel ill if people who you are around for extended periods use laundry detergent that isn't fragrance free and hyperallergic.  Ask if they would mind terribly if they washed their clothes with (insert name of detergent like draft) before the came or you'd be happy to do it for them when they get to your house.  I have a strong sensitivity to smells and I'm clear with family members not to wear perfume when they visit me.  This way you are saying you are the problem and asking them to help.  Say you're asking all overnight visitors to do this an apologize profusely for the inconvenience.  I think it's their clothes.  Also mention that you only have fragrance free body washes in the house.  [/quote]

My sister and I are both allergic to dyes and perfumes.  Whenever my grandmother visits either of us, she goes straight into the shower with her bar of soap (something we can have around, only she uses) and our shampoo/conditioner.  We give her a huge fluffy robe she wears once she’s out until all of her clothes come out of the dryer.  She can’t raise one arm past 45 degrees anymore, and she can’t stretch adequately to clean her back and shins/feet anymore, so she has a new handled poof each time as well.  She hates it, but the smells hanging around her make both of us gag/use our inhalers, so it’s either live with it or don’t visit.  Neither of us can be in her house anymore, it looks fine until you get close, but the smell warts out as you open the door.  And she refuses to have help cleaning either her home or her body, so as long as she is physically able to do at least half and willing to sit in a robe for two hours while clothes wash twice...  we’re not going to push yet.[/quote]

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