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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]/\ I'm a female married PP BTW. [b]My husband rises to the expectations set for him. [/b]I don't bail him out and therefore he takes them seriously. He's a grown up, I'm a grown up, and when I feel myself getting irritated at him for something like what you've all described. I tell him about it and we reshuffle something and I mentally let something go. Being happy is more important than any load of laundry, milk gallon left on the counter or birthday present unshopped for. [/quote]

The bolded part is key, and not every spouse will do that. For some people, no matter how they address it, their spouse will always be a freeloader. The process of coming to recognize that, accept it and decide what to do about it for yourself can be a long and painful one. Telling someone who's in the middle of it that it wouldn't be an issue if they just didn't get upset isn't helpful because their spouse isn't your spouse and doesn't respond the same way.[/quote]

I don't believe that every spouse is in that bucket. Some are, they should get divorced. But I also know people that lose their minds over how their spouse folds sheets. And those people are as responsible for their marital problems as the lazy spouse. [/quote]

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