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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I cannot believe that people on this forum are arguing over the things that they have to do for extra curricular activities. Petty. Grow up.

I bring the snacks.
I stand in the rain.
I wash the uniform.

Get a grip and learn to work together. This is why divorce, and bad marriages, are so hard on kids. Confront your issues and move on.

As a solo parent, I do all of these things. Reading the threads on this forum have made be realize how juvenile some people can be. 
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How would you suggest people do that? If you're the parent who's doing all of those chores while your spouse sits on the couch watching tv, and shows zero willingness to change no matter what you say/do, what is your solution to that? For some people, if they're already doing most of those tasks on their own plus all the additional work their spouse generates (extra laundry, dishes, etc.) and they don't feel like they're getting anything else of value from their spouse (e.g., emotional support), it might seem like a better deal to divorce.[/quote]

Let them fail. Give them a responsibility, let them fail, and let them deal with the consequences of that. Don't nag, just let them face the consequences of their actions. They are an adult.

Do what you need to do to feel happy. And adjust that if needed so your happiness isn't defined by perfect running of the entire household. Really figure out what will not effect YOU. Maybe you can't deal with a messy kitchen so you do do the dishes. But if the kids are mad about their laundry not happening, tell them to talk to the other parent. If Susie shows up to Larla's birthday without a gift and is upset, tell them dad was supposed to pick that up and to ask him about it. You don't have to be a b about it, but just let some things go. If they don't all happen the world won't end. And other parent being responsible for it will likely teach them more than your complaining ever could.

If other parent agrees to do the dishes and then you just sit there for four hours waiting for them to do the dishes getting progressively more angry until suddenly you throw your hands up and say, 'JESUS THE DISHES HAVE TO GET DONE IM GOING TO DO IT MYSELF' then you have done nothing of value. You have set up a situation where you are going to be angry. [/quote]

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