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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s one thing when your mom and stepdad are equal earners, but especially when you acknowledge that it’s his money.... I’m not sure what you were expecting. You’re not his kid, you never saw him as a father, and you’re an adult who is apparently capable of looking after yourself and your family.

You can ask to not hear about their gifts though. And you can stop spending time thinking about what to gift them.[/quote]
[b]They’re definitely not equal earners, but I can tell you this much, it wouldn’t hurt him financially to treat me the same. I just wish my own mom wasn’t so excited to brag about how wonderfully she/they treat her stepkids[/b].[/quote]

Found it! Grown person with children upset that her stepfather's children get pricier gifts than they do.[/quote]

That doesn’t mean she thinks she deserves the same.  But if there is no financial reason for the discrepancy it is obviously about the relationship.  Stepsisters have a dad who loves and spoils them financially and a step-mom who devotes lots of time and energy to planning these excursions and gifts.

OP gets an after-thought gift card and nothing else.  She has no parents anymore.  And the difference is not cause by money but by people with everything who just don’t care enough to even think of including her.[/quote]
 
That is a total reach to say she is an orphan just because her mom picks out nice gifts for her stepsisters. The dynamics is such that OP does not have a relationship with her mom's husband. She got a $75 gift card and yet she still complains. It wasn't like nothing. I get the impression that the OP just drives herself upset by constant comparison with her stepsisters. Was the stepdad obliged to pay for her college too, since he's probably paying for his daughters based on OP's logic? I'm sure one more college bill wouldn't hurt his net worth but it's the principle. She's not his daughter. [b]His money isn't his wife's money to spend on her bio daughter (OP). And so OP's mom does the smart thing to ingratiate herself with his daughters and help with gifting. OP needs to deal[/b]. [/quote]
I agree with this. But OP’s mother is rude to talk about the gifts/experiences given to the step-sisters. It’s always rude to brag about spending money. I think OP should tell her mother that she doesn’t want to hear about the extravagant gifts. [/quote]

OP's mother may not realize the daughter is bothered. She may think they're close enough that she can talk frankly and openly without any issues of jealousy coming up. I can totally see how this situation can be interpreted differently. [/quote]

How can a mom of a child who lost her dad as a teen not be more aware?  [/quote]

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