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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guys - it’s 2018. Men don’t just waltz out of the house to golf with their buddies while their wife and kids stay home preparing Thanksgiving Dinner for *their* friends! My God, have we gotten anywhere in this country?![/quote]

eh, my dad always helped my mom with the cooking when I was a kid and they were pretty traditional people.  This business of a man ditching his family to do his own thing on Thanksgiving is both foreign and sad to me.

Maybe that flies in some families but it isn't anything that I've ever dealt with.
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My H helps with all the cooking and plays football every thanksgiving morning.

Why does it take all day to make dinner? Why can't you make some things the night before with your H?

Pretty much all you do once the Turkey is in is baste it? How do you need all hands on deck for that?[/quote]
Exactly. If it takes you all day and all hands on deck to prepare a thanksgiving dinner, then you are doing it wrong...or you're just a martyr.[/quote]

It takes awhile to do all the prep and the cooking.  Unless you are cutting a lot of corners, using boxed foods (like instant mashed potatoes and Stovetop) or simply not making that much in the way of food...it absolutely does take a fair amount of time to prepare Thanksgiving dinner.  If you are also watching the parade on t.v., playing board games, listening to holiday music and chatting the morning just zooms right on by.  We eat around 3pm.[/quote]

Enough with the boring parade.

If you start at noon you have 3 f'ing hours to get the sides done and you can easily do some prep on Wednesday. Pies are always gone before.

Your are just obsessing about some vision in your head of what you want and are not being a good partner.

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I really don't care if you think that I take too long prepping/making food.  I also don't care if you don't like the parade or playing games or anything else we do.  If you want to run a 5k on Thanksgiving morning go right on ahead and do it.  I do enough 5Ks already that doing one on Thanksgiving is no great shakes to me.  Spending some time with my family is how I prefer to spend the day.  And my husband and kids feel the same way.

It is strange that you are arguing with me over the way my family spends our holidays.  
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What is strange is that you don't want OP's H to spend the morning the way he would like to spend it based on how you spend your morning. He doesn't even know you. [/quote]

Op does know her husband and she knows that up until this Thanksgiving they have always spent the holiday together.  Now her dh has suddenly switched things up and is going to be spending the early part of the day with his friends instead of his wife and child. He didn't bother to discuss the plans with Op, he just unilaterally decided that Op is watching their child and getting the house ready and the meal prepped for his friends.  That was completely inconsiderate of him and Op has the right to feel unhappy about it.

I, personally, don't care how that guy spends his day.  I do understand that his wife and child do care.[/quote]

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