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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whether it is ok or not, it is done ALL THE TIME from 6th grade on for girls and boys.  I have 4 kids, my youngest is in 6th grade.  5th grade seems to be the year this practice starts pretty consistently and it is always after a venue celebration.  So the kids go to a trampoline park, play for a couple of hours, have cake and pizza and always a small group is invited to a sleepover (usually 6 or less).  My kids are completely fine with this by the way.  They had a blast at the party and they understand that they are closer to some kids than others. So they get invited to some sleepovers and don't make the list for others.  It doesn't affect them at all.  The only instances when this was an issue that I an remember is when a friend of my daughter didn't invite one of her closest friends because of some tween drama.  The girl was really upset.  My oldest daughter one time hoped to be invited to a sleepover for a girl she really liked but it was a very new friendship and she was invited to the party, but not the sleepover.  I told her friendships need time to grow and that the other girl most likely had a cap for her sleepover and had cousins and older friends who she wanted to invite.  My daughter understood perfectly well.  The friendship did grow, they are inseparable now.  As they grow into adults, it is a good example to show them that they are not going to be invited to everything and that it is ok.  BTW, we have only done this once when my daughter had a huge pool party with 30 of her friends and she invited her 4 best friends to a sleepover.  [/quote]

I think we all can agree that four sleeping over out of a group of 30 is different than inviting 12 and telling half to go home.  Also, just because you are fine with it doesn't mean it isn't hurtful and mean.  Maybe you would like to go to only part of the party but, for me it is not ideal.  Just keep us off the list...any list if that is how you feel about us.[/quote]

That's pretty sensitive.  I'm the PP you responded to and I guess I'm not that sensitive and I'm trying to get my kids to have thicker skins because life can be unfair.  I can't imagine any of my kids been close friends with everyone.  If your child gets invited to a part of a birthday, at this age it is because the birthday kid likes your kid. You would rather your child not go to a party at all if they are not invited to the other part of the party?  Friendships are forged through time.  Even if I knew ahead of time if there would be a sleepover (and I did know plenty of times through other parents), I wouldn't want my children to miss a party that they wanted to attend and where they can hang out with friends. [/quote]

This. This right here. Totally agree, PP.[/quote]

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