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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I mean, I have boys, so perhaps it is different, but I think you are missing the point. I agree that is totally normal to have friend groups by age 8, and to only invite friends to a sleepover. But neither of my boys would be sufficiently close friends with 7 out of 10 boys in the class to warrant inviting them for a sleepover. Three or four boys tops. So no, you certainly don't need to invite "ALL 12" girls in the class, but it is pretty cruel to invite 10 of them.

This is not even close to OPs situation. There are multiple classes in the grade, so it is more like 30 other girls were not invited. Much ado about nothing. No one in a big school invites all of the kids; it just ins't practical. [/quote]

It is [u]exactly [/u]the same situation.  My boys go to a big public school with about 40 boys in the grade and 10 boys in each of 4 classes.  I think it would be unkind to invite 7 of those 10 boys but not 3 others, even if 3 or 4 boys from other classes were invited.  You obviously disagree, which is fine, but it is not a different situation at all.  [/quote]

I have 2 boys and disagree with you. I have not hosted a sleepover party but home birthday parties. We have preschool friends, neighbors, family friends, cub scouts and sports. Last year we invited 6 of 10 instead of 7 because of stupid majority unsaid rule. Kid was hurt. I don’t think it matters if 60% or 80% of same sex was invited. You may feel bad if you weren’t invited.

A sleepover is a whole other situation where you are hosting for 12+ hours. I think inviting 10 girls is insane and if should not be the whole class sex.

We are at a new school and DS is part of a small crew in his class. Group of 4 boys in same class play together everyday. DS wasn’t invited. Was told it was an 8 kid party and it included his cousins and family friends.

DS said it was fine and was mature about it. I’m the one who felt bad. Again, only 2 kids were invited from class and they all knew one another since kindergarten.

Point is there will always be hurt feelings whether you were bffs in first and not invited because you are in a different class and mom decided to invite all girls from same class only. Or you are not part of 2 or 8 boys who got invited.[/quote]

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