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the high amount of couples not having any sex.  And I do find it curious about the 1/4 of couples being "extremely happy" despite never having sex.  What ages are we talking here?  What kind of couples got interviewed for this?  I guarantee you if you poll of married couples in their 40s and 50s who rarely/never have sex, you won't get nearly 1/4.[/quote]

I don't find it that surprising.  Couples with matched libidos tend to be happy all other things being equal.  They would also tend to stay together versus a couple with mismatched libidos, again, all other things being equal.  So even if you think the split of low libido is 90/10 women to men (which is way off, IMO, but whatever), I'd expect a somewhat larger proportion of couples not having sex to be situations where both partners have low libidos or are even asexual.  [/quote]

Yeah, good point.  Matched libidos in a marriage is interesting because libidos USUALLY are high on the onset and taper off.  Impossible to predict?[/quote]

I think some patterns are probably generally true in the big picture.  That the frequency of sex tends to decline at least somewhat.  That parents of young children often experience more exaggerated declines.  That most of those parents then recover somewhat, but not to the frequency before kids.  That's nothing more than a guess based on anecdotal evidence, but if I had to bet, I'd wager those things are true for at least a bare majority of long-time relationships.

But I think there are then just a ton of other co-factors.  Stress seems to be a huge one, often compounded by anxiety or depression (which is treated with antidepressants that may reduce libido and/or make climax more difficult).  Body image and health issues.  And yeah, just plain disappointment in a partner or with life in general.  Some subset of parents seem to never recover after having children.

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