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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the op. I talked with the party hosting mom more today while the girls were at dance class. I assured her the face I made wasn’t in anger at her but more shock and disappointment at my DD re: the pink hair because she knows my feelings on unnatural colors. She’s asked to have fun colored hair in the past and I’ve said no. Knowing it is something we don’t allow and then doing it at a party is deceitful. I get it, it’s something small that I shouldn’t be strict about, but that’s just my preference. I’m actually not strict in other ways just like others pointed out about being okay with dance’s skimpy costumes and heavy makeup.

I don’t like the fun colored hair. I don’t think it looks cute on kids. I don’t think it looks cute or interesting on adults. I work in a job where tats have to be covered (I actually have 3), hair can’t be an unnatural color, and gaged ears have to have the flesh colored plugs put in so there’s no hole.  However, I don’t see someone with it and think they are an idiot, loser, or criminal, just an FYI. I get that everyone has their own preferences and can do what they want with their bodies.

I did tell the mom I was upset with the mocktails. I told her why and about the history of alcoholism in my family. She said she understood why that could upset me. She asked if she’d put all the details on the invite if my DD could have still attended and I said yes, but we would have talked beforehand. She said she respected that. She didn’t feel like all details needed to be on there because part was a surprise for her DD (aunt & friends coming to do hair/makeup/nails) and because she feels they are at the age now where it’s not needed by the parents.  It was a good conversation. I told her I understood from an outsider that the party was a big hit and seemed fun for them. She has older kids and told me to get prepared for all the things to come that will happen that I’ll be in the dark about and will find out about after the fact. I think that’s a big part of it since DD is my oldest. I have no experience here. I’m just used to the little kid ways of knowing what’s planned for parties and such. I know that’s on me to work on and change.

For those suggesting therapy, ha yes, been in that for yeaaaars. As I said, long history of alcoholim on my side of the family. Will add this to the list to work on. Thanks for responses and insight. [/quote]

Aw, OP.

It is hard when they grow up.

Remember, she was not deceitful.

Deceitful would have been doing it, then washing her hair at the host's house in the morning so you did not find out.[/quote]

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