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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Once again, what was DH's position on having the kid in the first place? Was he enthusiastic about starting a family, or was he ambivalent but went along with it to make OP happy? This matters a lot here. [/quote]

Not really.

Because once he committed to sex without birth control, he has a responsibility to be a father to the child he chose to create, even if he did it to make his wife quiet.[/quote]

Not everyone has the same idea of what it means to be a father.  There are LOTS of men AND women who think that the main function of the father is to be the provider.  If that was the understanding between the wife and the husband going in, then she really has no place to complain.[/quote]

Well, I feel perfectly entitled to say those men are shitty fathers. Kids need love more than money.[/quote]

Sorry, but as a single parent who has, at times, struggled to put food on the table, I can tell you that kids need both.  The fact that OP and her DH have divided up the responsibilities so that one parent primarily provides one, and the other parent provides the other isn't the way I'd necessarily do it, but their kid isn't deprived.

I think that dinner together whenever he's home, and a shared sports activity on the weekend is a great place to start.  I'd figure out a way for the kid and DH to interact that isn't playing together on the floor.  There are plenty of other things they can do  I'd also set some limit on the kid's behavior and not brush it off as "well sometimes he's rude to DH".  Finally, I'd figure out a way to get the kid to bed before DH goes to bed so that DH can play a role in the bedtime routine, and so that DH can catch his breath as opposed to being on every minute. [/quote]

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