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[quote=Anonymous]I think we can all agree as parents that if money grew on trees, we’d all stay home, make waffles in the AM leisurely around 10am after a few cups of coffee. This isn’t reality.

Someone has to work. At that juncture in life where two parents have a career track, they jointly decide the Mom should take second fiddle in most cases. Many men don’t budge on daddy tracking or leaving the workforce. Why?

I’ll tell you my case, my DH doesn’t have to work. There’s no way he’d quit his job. He can’t fathom giving up his independence and how that might change our marriage dynamic.

I totally get it. I’m flabbergasted that more women don’t get this.

Once you leave the workforce, you’ll likely never reach your same potential, even 10 years later. You’ve lost a ton of leverage in the marriage and will be willing to accept some major BS behavior down the road as you are financially dependent on someone.

Should the marriage dissolve, the working spouse wins the long game. You’re banking on never divorcing and you likely kowtow to his leverage on the daily.

It’s not equal. It’s not a partnership. He’s financing you as a dependent.

For the record, it’s utterly ridiculous to state high earning men aren’t detail oriented. They can figure out when the household needs more OJ, they’ve just delegated all the BS to you as operations without a paycheck.

Another silly post, men can deal better with working crap like answering to bosses or long hours or getting that TPS report in on time. SAHMs can juggle a hella of a lot more, and they do it daily to support your male ambition.

It’s not equal. It’s the patriarchy selling women on a very shitty contract for life. Not to mention the role model you are as a 2018 woman.

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