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In my experience, [b]90% of men in challenging careers are not there for the “personal achievement” and self-actualization.[/b] Those men are there for the money to take care of the families. They aren’t particularity happy working. Occasionally you run into men who would do exactly what they are currently doing no matter what. You may be similar to that latter group of men, but you’re painting with a broad brush.

As for why men don’t stay home, women play a part in that as well: [b]women, unlike men, have a harder time being attracted to potential partners who are not career oriented.[/b] Yes, there is a small subset of women who would marry and stay with men who are less ambitious than they are, but men who would prefer not to work have a real hard time finding and keeping a partner. Hell, these boards frequently feature posts from women who are frustrated by their husband’s lack of ambition. Very rare to hear men express the same sentiment about their wives.

Finally, while there are a whole host of factors that go into the longer life expectancy and better health outcomes of women vs men, I believe one of those factors is the stress that men experience with work.

None of this is to suggest that men should work and women should stay home with the kids. People should structure their lives as they please without facing the judgment and scorn of others. I always thought that was a major point for feminism and female empowerment, but this thread suggests otherwise. [/quote]

Yet, when I got a $500k+2x bonus C-level job offer in a fine midwest city, workaholic DH wouldn't budge. Wouldn't leave his asinine job, wouldn't leave DC, wouldn't want to stay home with the kids, didn't even entertain the thought of relaxing for a couple years after doing an investment banking rat race for 15 years of uber high taxes, F'd up vacations, and ADD iPhone addiction. 
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