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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just an observation, for those that think this problem does not exist...

I own a tutoring business. Out of thousands of new clients who have initially contacted me throughout the years, I can count on one hand how many of those were dads.

These moms I deal with are doctors and lawyers, scientists and journalists- very well-educated, busy women. Dads on the whole just don't pick up the slack. They don't manage the kid stuff- they only show up if they're told to. UGH.[/quote]

Yes, and I happily deal with my kids tutoring, I have one in math tutoring.  I dont bean count the basic tasks in life we have to do. My DH does many things I never touch that makes the house run happy and smooth.

Furthermore getting your kid tutoring is not mentally exhausting.  My kid goes to the exact same math center 2xs a week. No scheduling needed. Whomever is free drops the kid off and picks the kid up.

Again, how are basic life tasks hard for you people? And if simple life is hard, just use your big girl words and assign them out.[/quote]

Then why aren't around 50% of parents involved with tutoring or their child's IEP process dads?  My family is unusual in that my DH attends some of the IEP meetings but he has not spent the countless hours researching the ES programs in our area, understanding services and accommodations, and talking to other moms to glean their experiences and insights on managing an IEP for a complex kid.  He didn't attend DDVA meetings to learn from experts about assistive technology, meet and Facebook friend an in demand ALTA certified language therapist in order to pounce on the opportunity when she had an opening for another student.  In fact I have never seen a man who is not a professional in the field participate in our county's autism group.  The only men who I've ever seen attend a DDVA meeting were presenters, young adult children of the organizer, and, one time, a spouse.

If this is all so easy then why is it women 99% of the time?[/quote]

Oh .. and juggled work schedules to make the open slot work, redid the family budget to include the expense, entered everything into the calendar for the next year including finding out which days she's "closed" to remove those, and then talked to DC's teacher and continued to monitor that what they are doing in school aligns with what we are doing privately ... which goes back to hours researching DC's LD to understand proven methodologies.[/quote]

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