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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have plantar fasciitis and it’s really painful for me to go barefoot. Going barefoot is not recommended at all for people with PF because you can re-injure your foot. I find it really hard to get all this across to someone, especially someone I don’t know well, so being asked is really awkward for me.

Most people who see shoes by the door and a barefoot host automatically take off shoes if they are comfortable doing so. [/quote]

You could just tell people, WHEN YOU'RE INVITED (not when standing at their door at which point they'll feel more obligated), "oh, thanks for the invitation to your home! I just have a question, are you a no-shoes house? I have a medical issue where I don't remove my shoes. If you guys don't wear shoes in the house, maybe we could meet at a restaurant instead? Or you could come over to my house!"

Always phrase it as "if you wear shoes in the house" and not "if you won't allow me to wear shoes in your house" because the latter is very rude and puts them on the spot. NEITHER of you should be in a position that you're uncomfortable with - that's the point.

And then, if it's not a big deal for them, they'll tell you. If it is, they'll accept your offer to meet elsewhere. Or at a minimum, they can plan appropriately for your visit, make sure not to bother cleaning the floors before you arrive, already plan to clean the floors after you leave, maybe ask you whether indoor slippers or booties would be okay, and/or plan for everyone to be contained to the tiled areas of the house for the evening instead of walking through as they normally would and ending up sitting in the nice living room with lovely clean carpets.

I do think though that if you've been in a situation where it's been "awkward" for you in the past then you must already know that some people do live in a cleaner way and expect people to not wear street shoes in their house. In which case, at a minimum you should be already prepared with some sort of booties to put over your shoes (even non-slip ones, if that's what you prefer).[/quote]

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