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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You people are off your rockers. OP specifically said that her SDD doesn't live there, SDD doesn't know the child very well, the child doesn't know SDD very well. Not knowing the house or neighbors or area, not knowing the child and the child not knowing her is really more equal with a traditional babysitter situation.

OP had no idea that her young child was going to be in the care of someone other than his parent (and yes, a child that was 3 yesterday is a young child). So if she'd received word that her husband was in an accident or something, she would have naturally started freaking out assuming that the kids were also in the car, maybe even told that to law enforcement and started a search. And if the neighbor had called to report some strange activity at the house, she would have had no idea that the kids were at home together (and yes, a child who was 12 yesterday is also a kid) and wouldn't have reacted appropriately. If there was a fire in the house, she wouldn't have known to let people know that there were actually kids still trapped in the house. etc etc

That situation is nothing similar to siblings who grew up together and are comfortable being at home by themselves. Even when I was minding my younger sibling at that age, everyone knew about it and was on board with it.

Pretty sure OP even commented at some point that she doesn't think her SDD would have been totally on board with the idea either. So add that she was reluctant to the list and it paints an even worse picture.

Not sure why everyone is piling on and blaming OP for hating her SDD or anything. I didn't get that impression at all. I think she only said SDD to show that they are not siblings who grew up together, and that since they don't live together it's not something that has ever happened before either.

- Someone with no step-kids and has no dog in this fight but who has a 4 yo and I would be shocked if I found out that DH had randomly left him with someone (even one of DH's adult siblings!) without at least letting me know[/quote]

1) If you would flip on your DH for leaving them with an adult aunt or uncle that doesn't have a questionable history than you're off your rocker too

2) You don't have stepchildren. If you were also not a stepchild then you have no idea what kind of relationship that is. She is a step daughter but a half sister. And in my household no matter how frequently I have seen or not seen my half brothers due to travel, I was their sister

A lot of us are saying that IF SD feels like a stranger in the home that is as much a problem as OP flipping over something stupid like this. [/quote]

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