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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I spanked my kids probably a total of 3 times when they were toddlers and ran into the street. I wanted them to stay out of the street. You often don't get a second chance to learn that lesson. I didn't care if they stayed out of the street because they were scared I would spank them. Not dying was more important than that. Both are terrific teens with whom I have a great relationship! I think you really need to distinguish between how and why the child is being spanked. [/quote]

Same here.  That's the only reason I ever spanked, and it was two times when she was two.  Personally, I don't think I could spank her now at age four.  I don't think I could explain why it is ok for me to hit her and why it's not ok for her to hit her friends (or me or her sister).  I was never spanked but I saw a friend get belted once.  It scared the crap out of me and I never wanted to go back to her house.  [/quote]

If you take away a toy, can you explain to her why that is OK, even though she is not able to take away her sister's toy?[/quote]

Yes, I can.  I can take a toy away from her if she loses the privilege to have that toy for some reason.  She can't take a toy away from her sister because she's not an adult and she's not in charge of her sister.  But I can't explain to her why I am allowed to cause her physical pain if she acts out for some reason while at the same time telling her that she can't hit someone because it's not ok to cause someone else physical pain.[/quote]

Interesting - so you couldn't explain to her that as her mommy/daddy you are charged to take care of her and teach her things.  One of the things you are trying to teach her is x.  You have told her x number of times not to do x.  She has refused to listen on x number of occasions.  As a result, she will be punished with a spanking which only mommy/daddy are allowed to do because she continuously did not do x. In the future, when mommy/daddy tell you to do x, you expect her to do x.[/quote]

I'm not going to debate with you.  I use other tactics than spanking when my children don't listen (except for the two times she ran into the street and frankly, [b]if spanking worked, I should have only had to spank her once[/b], but it obviously didn't work and I didn't like hitting her so I never did it again).  You want to hit your kids, then hit your kids.  I don't want to hit my kids.  End of conversation.[/quote]

Is there any punishment that works with 100% effectiveness, when used once in 18 years, the behavior will never, ever be repeated?[/quote]

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