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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's no way I'm quoting the chop job 17:24 did when trying to respond to be post but this is to you 17:24.

I'll make it simple for you. When you get married both parties should be able to choose to remain in or leave the relationship with as much information as possible.

Spouse A can choose to stop having sex and communicate that to spouse b. Spouse b then has that information and can choose to leave or inform spouse a that they will seek sex outside the marriage. If spouse b cheats secretly then they are deciding for spouse a what spouse a should have in their life. Spouse a does not have the choice that was offered to spouse b, namely, accept this crappy thing I'm doing or leave.

Therefore, at best, both spouses are equally crappy. This is not taking into account marriages where sex has stopped for a short time for childbearing or menopausal reasons or for injury or sickness. In those cases spouse b is much crappier then spouse a. [/quote]

I was spouse b for a while. I told spouse a that maybe we should open up the marriage. Spouse a got upset said go ahead, then later decided that wasn't a good idea and offered up sex for a short period of time. I finally said I was going to leave, spouse a again got upset, but the following day when I was ready to leave decided to try and be enthusiastic about sex again and has ever since. Spouse a needed to realize that not having sex was not acceptable for our marriage. I wasn't going to cheat, but I was going to leave [/quote]

I am pp and I have no judgement for this course of action. Sounds like you were honest and both spouses were able to make informed decisions about whether they wanted to remain in the relationship.[/quote]

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